Why is this so fucking difficult. I had a year

Why is this so fucking difficult. I had a year and a half under my belt, I was happy, content and confident in my sobriety. Went through a breakup 3 months ago ( she was 5 years sober) and I cant stay sober for more than 3 or 4 days at a time. I told my sober friends about my relapse but Im still drinking, shit I even tried to get a sponsor. Im feeling like a POS and really need someone to talk to. Want to get sober but I cant

Stay strong man try hitting some meetings and keep reaching out