So I have 1 friend. She's not sober- and feels that she doesn't have to be sober because I am. We both want to hang but there's a problem.
I want to hang out with her all the time. And the environment must be sober. She's willing to hang with me sometimes in a sober environment.
I'm upset because I feel she would rather drink than hang out with me. Is it selfish that I expect her to hang out with me and never drink while being upset if she drinks without hanging with me.
Hi, Tori. Good friends are hard to come by. Having friends when you're sober is harder. I get that you want your friend sober. She'll come around when she's ready.
If she's willing to hang with you in a sober atmosphere though it's not as much as you want to do it. She's still respecting your lifestyle by avoiding alcohol in your presence.
Hanging with her in a sober environment may be the answer you both are looking for- a fun life of sobriety for your friend.
Maybe hang out with her once or twice a week if she’s willing to be sober. Sometimes you have to cut people out for the sake of your sobriety & Make some new friends!
Thanks Amanda and Rachel.
Tori, hang out with your friend in sober environments. Friendship is give and take. You have to meet people where they're at-not just on your terms.