Our disease isolated us from ppl except when we were getting,using and finding ways and means to get more. Hostile, resentful, self centered and self seeking , we cut ourselves off from the outside world. Anything not completely familiar became alien and dangerous. Our world shrank and isolation became our life. We used in order to survive. It was the only way of life we knew.
Ironically, the only time I had relationships with people was when I was drinking. I always had friends and romance. Granted, toward the end I ruined all of them. But now that I have been sober 17 + months, I can't find a friend to save my life. Maybe it's because I haven't yet found where sober me fits in.