Sometimes I feel like a fraud networking, connecting with people on this app & in the rooms bc we’re “helping” one another but I couldn’t even help the person who meant the world to me, my best friend & partner of 7 years who I lost to addiction bc I couldn’t be there for him when he needed my help. Anyone else experienced this kind of loss ? My heart and soul ache every day.
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I don’t think you’re a fraud. I’ve lost a few friends to depression and I’m convinced there’s nothing I could have done.
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I am so sorry you lost your friend, that sounds like a lot of hurt you are carrying. I lost a friend too when using and wondered for a long time if I could have helped if I wasn't wrapped up in my own addiction. One thought for the value of being in this and other recovery communities is just being heard and understood by others who get it. We can't own "saving" one another but we can help by understanding and compassion. In that sense your sharing is helpful in my recovery, so I'm grateful for you being here and hope you can do a kindness for yourself today.
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You're not a fraud. I lost my dad to alcoholism and a cousin to addiction. I tried to help...but it didn't work. I hate that. But I can't live in guilt. Neither should you.
You're not a fraud. You're 1 person.
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You are not a fraud.helping someone is different than doing it for someone.we can't solve anything for anyone but ourselves.we can't make decisions or choices for others.we can support and help through our experiences but we don't live their lives so we can't dictate their course.it does hurt to watch someone suffer.
I love my mom with all my heart and watching her die from drinking still hurts to this day. she wanted to be sober and tried a few different times.i always thought I could have done more.the more I tried just ended up with her feeling more guilty which made her drink more.she ended up having a heart attack in front of the fridge getting a beer so she could take more pain pills.i always think I could have done more.a week before she passed away she told me she was proud of me and not to carry guilt from her choices
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Thank you all for your comments I sincerely appreciate everyone’s input & needed the support. So thank you for that. 
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I recently lost my best friend. Do not blame yourself. You WERE there! Everything will get better, I promise
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I lost the love of my life to an overdose chat me anytime
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