I drink way too much, but I have always made

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I drink way too much, but I have always made excuses for it. I am 39 years old, have two children, and I want to change my life.

My kids deserve better, and I think that I do, too. Being sober would most likely drastically change my life.

If anyone has tips that can help a person get started and stay sober, I would truly appreciate the help.

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#2

You do deserve better and now that you have realized that you can be better for you and them.. my prayers for you and God plan for you is coming don't give up

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#3

Thank you so much- hearing this means a lot.

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#4

You are starting in the right place. Wanting a change and admitting that you need a change are the first steps. Find a meeting to go to. Maybe even an addiction counselor. You can do it.

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#5

Welcome A! You’ve made the next best right decision! Now, my advice is join AA. Find a meeting and go. Sit in the front row. Listen listen listen to others share their experiences, hope and strength. Then get a sponsor. Get the big book, read the big book. Do the work, steps. It’s going to take patience and perseverance with a lot of faith on a higher power of your understanding. For me as soon as I found God, my life changed. I’m not religious. I’m becoming very spiritual. The spiritual awakening is the best feeling of ever had. You are on the right path. The last thing we must do is practice our program daily. Help others who still suffer. Be a part of your community. Once we get some time under our belt, we can no longer hide from the world. We can lift our heads up, look people in the eye and smile. Enjoy your day filled love and peace within.

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Find meetings in your area get a sponsor work the program
And even though we would like to get sober for people around us you need to want to do it for you and all the other stuff will fall into place

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The problem is drinking and character defects. The solution is sponsorship, fellowship and service.

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#10

Staying connected really helps. Communicating how you feel to ones that truly support you makes all the difference. You got this! Just start one day at a time, and it’s a lot of repetitive stuff you’ll hear but it’s because it works. You are amazing and more powerful than you could ever imagine. It’s hard work to get sober but if you stick with it you’ll learn how to process stuff in a healthy way and that’ll change your world. This is coming from someone with less than 60 days of sobriety. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, you deserve it.

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#11

Do zoom AA

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#12

Consider reading some of the great stories out there. I just finished The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober. Incredible book, finished in 3 days.

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#13

Find a meeting

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I have four adult children - two who barely speak to me because of booze - drying out now? I did but it’s too late . Want to meet your grandkids someday? Go to an aa meeting - I was super resistant - but hearing everyone’s stories which will likely sound just like yours is something to experience. I found it to be non-judge mental, pressure free and very helpful. If u hate it leave..

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#15

Go to 90 meetings in 90 days. Read the AA Big Book. Get phone numbers at meetings. I'm certain there are online meetings 24/7.

I wish I could show you "frog in a blender." It's great to get out frustrations.

Do NOT pick up that first drink. That's what'll get you drunk. One drink is too many and ten not enough.

I'm 52 and got sober at 17. My AA birthday is August 9th. There have been many times unwanted to drink. Going for a long walk helps me and talking to my Higher Power whom I choose to call G-d. Sometimes I need to run to expend extra energy and get out anger. But whatever I do, I never pick up a drink!!

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Amen

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I’m 39 , mother of 2 and 9 months sober. Read the book This Naked Mind. Changed my life

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Find a counselor or sponsor. I like the book “Alcohol Explained” makes you realize how much damage you are doing to health.
Journal so yoga find stillness. You can do it One day at a time sometimes one moment at a time.

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I second this.

#20

I am in the same position as you. I sent you a friend request. I have 4 kids and wanting to be sober. Just scared to death what it looks like especially in my marriage :cry:

#21

My prayers go out to you. I am in your position too. I wish I quit a long time ago. It did a number on my kids and me ex used it against me. I would give anything to go back so that's my kids didnt have to go through so much pain. They are my world but alcohol took hold of me. I pray it all turns around for you know.

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I think you made the first step when you down loaded this app welcome to the group my friend and just take it one step at a time I'm just 21 Days in but I've made it 21 Days !!