I have been having a hard time dating since I've been sober. I have 9 months clean living in a sober living home post jail and rehab I'm currently working 2 jobs and working the steps. When I do get the chance to meet soccer new either online or in person When they ask about me I tell them I've recently moved and starting life over. When the conversations progresses any mention of being in recovery or the fact my last girlfriend died of an OD they run away with the quickness. I was talking to one women for a month and really were hitting it off and she even ran when I told her this information. This has been the case multiple times. Advice?
Hi, Jason. It's best to be honest. I know it's scary but you don't want a relationship to be based on a lie. You'll find someone who will love you despite your past.
Keep being you. You have overcome so much. Own it. Be proud of the progress you're making.
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It’s not your fault people are taken aback by this. Have you considered dating others in recovery? I definitely got a lot of weird reactions from men about my past & a lot of people in recovery understand addiction better & can look past it. After a few years meeting people to date outside of recovery was easier bc there were years in between my turbulent past.
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I have not been able to date anyone because nobody wants me since i begain a new life without drinking and it breaks my heart that nobody wants me .what is there to do i am three years clean and i would love to be in a relationship with some one
I hear you