Dating in Sobriety
What with Valentine’s Day right around the corner, I thought it might be useful to start a thread where we share our best dating in sobriety tips.
What’s yours?
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Online lol you dont see them, texting and you can legit do what ever with out the temptation of them taking you out or vice versa..
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Lol pretty much. I’ve been online dating for years, its much less pressure.
For now I'm not dating since I still don't feel ready yet without maybe being tempted to drink. But when I do start I think I am going to try to find someone that isn't big into drinking or at all. Find someone more health conscience. My friend will be my valentine this year. 
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How is that when living with an ex I know it would be a problem for mine
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Nature , nature , nature. Go on a tough hike so using is out of the question. Get high, in a good way. 
its rewarding and u feel in tune with your body. plus u actually get 1 -1 time 
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After rehab I waited a year to date. My rehab recommended it. I worked on myself the whole time and was a way cooler person as a result, so then I had more to offer, too. Been with my man six yrs. We are planning babies. Life is good. Take advice.
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Staying single when we know it’s not the right time to date is so smart. Lol in the past I’ve done the complete opposite. My cat will be my Valentine this year 
Well, as of right now I’m not actively pursuing anyone on dating apps. Just because I feel it would be unfair to whoever I met that I still have my ex in the picture given my living situation. But she’s active on the dating apps and I’m just kind like 🤷🏼 What can I do? I have no control over other people but she has shown jealousy in the past when I was active on them
Oh man this is such a good one. Natural endorphins, beautiful sights, and you get to see how they react under pressure 
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You guys are so cute 
I wish I had followed the advice to stay single for longer when I first got sober. Being in an unhealthy relationship too early on definitely contributed to my relapse.
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Treat that lucky feline to fancy feast 
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only the best!
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Thank you!!! Hey, you learned from it, right?
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Lololol at the fancy feast comment
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Of course, I stay learning lessons lol
Good for you!
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I would recommend dating someone that is either sober, or a normy that rarely drinks. In the past that helped me. Dating now seems like a greater challange for a number of reasons. The one that's relevant here. So many people are accustomed to using alchohol on dates to deal with their social anxiety.
Yeah, I would pretty much suggest the same. Weirdly enough, my most healthy relationship has been with someone who barely drinks but doesn’t have an issue with it. Rather than all the toxic relationships I had with recovering substance abusers lol and you’re right, it’s so normalized to be drinking on dates that it can become difficult to find someone
It ME!
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