I wanna talk about this because I just got out of one. One thing about toxic relationships is that sometimes it's hard to tell you're in one. I saw some red flags maybe, that little voice in the back of my mind might have been tugging my sleeve trying to warn me, but I had come to love this person. They're amazing. I might even be able to see myself spending the rest of our lives together. How's that for taking it one day at a time?
Denial is powerful because, by definition, if you're in denial, you can't identify it. If you could, you wouldn't be in denial anymore!
Soon those red flags seemed to be multiplying. Little lies turned into bigger ones. I had to start questioning whether I was even staying in the boundaries of my integrity still being with her. But I love her, I would reply! You don't just abandon people you love!
I know.. if I can just set a good enough example of what recovery looks like, if I can love her enough to make her eventually love and respect herself, she'll come around.
I can fix her... right?
Wrong. With a capital W.